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Taking the Fast Track to Self-Awareness

Written by Chuck Olson

November 2014 – It was clear that this person just didn’t get it.

The setting was a leadership conference and it was breakout time. As the host organization, one of my roles was to make sure that each seminar was up and running. I slipped into the back of one of the sessions as they were circling the room, introducing themselves. “Tell us your name and what you do vocationally.” Things were going well until Arnie got the floor and proceeded to march us down memory lane rehearsing each of his jobs since graduating summa cum laude from Clearmiss Middle School.

Arnie had no clue. The bank account of his self-awareness had long been overdrawn. Insufficient funds.

But think about it. It’s one thing to ride out the momentary pain of the me-monster that sets up shop in your breakout session, but it’s quite another to live day-in and day-out under a leader of a work group or an organization who has a severe case of Self-Awareness Deficit Disorder. That’s tough duty.

Self-awareness is the capacity to have an accurate read on what is going on in your life internally and how that reality affects your world externally. It’s the core of emotional intelligence. It’s the ability to know who you are and to understand the impact you have on those around you—and to do so in real time.

Self-awareness cannot be over-estimated. A recent survey of 75 members of the Stanford Graduate School of Business Advisory Council rated self-awareness as the most important competency for leaders to develop.

That sound byte gets my attention. You too?

Arguably the single most important practice for leaders to ramp up their self-awareness is to actively seek feedback. In the words of Ken Blanchard, author and leadership consultant, feedback is the breakfast of champions. I agree.

Feedback comes in all shapes and sizes. Online inventories. End of semester reviews. To name a few. But by far, relationship is the best feedback delivery system there is.

But finding someone who will offer you the gift of feedback can be a challenge. In that pursuit, you need to ask yourself these three questions. First, who currently sits within my circle of leadership influence? Second, who in this circle would I be most inclined to pay attention to their feedback? And third, who in this circle has the courage to tell me the things that others have been unwilling to tell me?

Pinpointing such a person is the proverbial mother lode of self-awareness as a leader. Having found that person, value them by thanking them for their cut-to-the-chase feedback. Value that person by receiving their feedback without pushback. Value that person by readily owning the corrective. And most of all, value that person by making the requisite changes.

Because when it is all said and done, you owe it to those who look to you for leadership to show up every day with an ever-increasing supply of self-awareness.



Question: Who has taught you the most about self-awareness in your life and leadership?

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Chuck Olson

As founder and president of Lead With Your Life, Dr. Chuck Olson is passionate about inspiring, resourcing and equipping Kingdom leaders to lead from the inside out.  To lead, not with the external shell of positions, achievements or titles, but from an internal commitment to a deep, abiding and transparent relationship with Jesus. Serving as a pastor and leadership coach for over forty years, Chuck has a track record of building these truths deep into the lives of both ministry and marketplace leaders.

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